A contract you can
use tonight.
Download a ready-to-use BDSM contract template as a fillable PDF. Safewords, limits, activities, aftercare, signatures. Everything you need to have the conversation and put it in writing.
What's in the free template
Six sections that cover the essentials of any BDSM dynamic. Each one has space for both partners to write in their own answers.
Safewords
A traffic-light system (green / yellow / red) plus space for a custom safe word and a nonverbal signal. This is the foundation of everything else in the contract.
Limits: Hard & Soft
Two separate sections. Hard limits are things that are completely off the table, no negotiation. Soft limits are things you're unsure about or open to exploring with the right conditions. Writing them down means nobody has to guess.
Activities
A checklist of common BDSM activities (bondage, impact play, sensation play, role play, and more) with space to rate interest and add your own. Go through it together so you know what overlaps.
Rules & Protocols
Space to define the rules of your dynamic: what's expected day to day, how you address each other, rituals, routines. Every relationship is different, so this section is open-ended.
Aftercare
What each person needs after a scene. Physical things like blankets, water, food. Emotional things like cuddling, reassurance, quiet time. Aftercare isn't optional, and putting it in writing makes sure it actually happens.
Signatures & Date
Lines for both partners to sign and date the contract. This is the moment that turns a conversation into a commitment. It doesn't make it legal. It makes it real.
Why use a BDSM contract
Most people in the BDSM community have had the conversation about limits and safewords. But “the conversation” usually happens in bits and pieces: in bed, over text, in the middle of a scene when someone realizes they forgot to mention something. A contract doesn't replace those conversations. It gives them structure. It makes sure you actually sit down and cover everything, not just the parts that come up naturally.
There's also the stuff people skip because it feels awkward. What happens after a scene? What does aftercare look like for each of you? What if one person wants to stop the dynamic entirely? How does that work? These things are easy to avoid talking about. A contract puts them right in front of you and says: talk about this now, before it matters.
The act of filling out a contract together, section by section, across the table from each other, is one of the most intimate things you can do in a dynamic.
It forces honesty. It creates space for vulnerability. And when you both sign it at the end, there's a weight to that moment. It turns something you've been talking about into something you've committed to. Not legally. A BDSM contract isn't legally binding, and consent can always be withdrawn. But emotionally it becomes a ritual object. A physical thing that represents what you are to each other.
Contracts are also useful for ongoing dynamics, not just new ones. Relationships change. Limits shift. Things that were soft limits six months ago might be hard limits now, or they might be things you're completely comfortable with. Going back to the contract every few months and updating it together keeps the communication alive. It's not a one-time document. It's a living part of the relationship.
How to use it
Three steps. About thirty minutes if you take your time, and you should take your time.
Download and print two copies
One for each of you. You can also fill it in digitally if you prefer, but there's something about having a physical copy in front of you that makes the whole thing feel more intentional.
Sit down together and fill it in
Don't rush this. Pour a drink, put on some music, and go section by section. Talk about each one. This is the point of the contract. The conversation itself is the most valuable part. Some sections will be quick. Others might take a while. That's fine.
Read it aloud and sign
When you're done, read the whole thing back to each other. Make sure it sounds right. Make sure it feels right. Then sign it. Put it somewhere you can both access it. Come back to it any time things change, and they will change, because you'll grow.
Want something more personal?
The free template works great for getting started. But if you want a contract that's fully customized to your dynamic, with your names, your roles, and every clause tailored to what you've actually negotiated, the custom builder goes a lot further.
Free Template
- Fillable PDF download
- One general-purpose template
- Fill in by hand or digitally
- Print and sign together
Custom Contract / $14.99
- Interactive step-by-step builder
- 14 templates for specific dynamics
- 6 premium styles (Blackletter, Parchment, Elegant, Modern, Soft, Classic)
- Every clause customized to your relationship
- Multi-partner support (3+ partners)
- Beautiful formatted PDF ready to print
Ready to get started?
Download the free template, print two copies, and sit down together. The conversation is what matters. The contract just gives it shape.
This is a symbolic document, not a legally binding contract. Consent can be withdrawn at any time by either party. This does not replace ongoing communication between partners.